You are half right.
If you are reading this and have thought recently, “I am a fraud,” then keep reading.
You might be a fraud if:
You boldly and objectively claim to be something you are not, either to yourself or other people.
You present someone else’s ideas or material and pass it off as your own.
You lie to yourself.
You lie to others.
You avoid the hard work.
You cop out.
You believe anything you say won’t matter to anyone or make a difference.
You are NOT a fraud if:
You tell your life’s stories and make your own observations and draw your own conclusions from them.
You are truly grateful when anyone spends their precious time to listen to you share from your heart. That includes, family friends and strangers.
You acknowledge some may not respond to you the way you would like. This includes, family friends and strangers.
You are not so self-centered to believe everyone will think everything you say will mean something to them.
You are truly grateful when even one person responds to you the way you like.
You you believe hard work and preparation punches apprehension in the throat every single time.
You do the work.
You over prepare.
You prepare until you bleed – in the shower, in the car, in bed, eating breakfast, in the bathroom, making dinner. You feel the burn. This means you lose sleep, miss fun time, lose your appetite – whatever it takes.
Chances are you are not a fraud, you are afraid.
Chances are you’re afraid of experiencing a sensation of being rejected.
Chances are your imagination is working overtime in finding new things to worry about.
Chances are you are experiencing a sense of dread brought on by believing rejection is an inevitability.
Chances are you imagine anything that could happen, no matter how irrational that would cause you to feel this emotion.
Chances are you don’t believe you have a trusted solution to the situation readily available to you.
Chances are your current understanding that being defenseless and vulnerable is weakness and weakness leads to being victimized.
Chances are knowing all this won’t help, at all.
So, if you chose to remain afraid, then yes, be afraid, be very afraid of being under prepared.